April 2019 Quote: Man kind

“Mankind

It’s in the name.”

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To the humans,

Sometimes I sit and wonder why are people so cruel to each other? I sit and stare out and the world and all its 7 billion people and think why do we hurt each other and put each other down?

I mean, what kind of sick satisfaction does a person get from making a person feel bad about themselves? It gives you power? It makes you feel superior? It makes you feel better about yourself?

If it does, I feel genuinely sorry for you.

I feel sorry for the way you feel like hurting others will heal yourself.

I feel sorry to whoever has hurt you along the way and has made you feel like this is the only way to live. I get that maybe you’ve been neglected, abused, bullied, or put down yourself by other people who were neglected, abused, bullied or put down. It’s a vicious cycle of hate that just keeps on giving because people are constantly being knocked down and think that they can only get up if they drag someone down with them. I’m sorry for all the tears, bruises, scars, and worries you wear on your shoulders or on your skin. I’m sorry for all the times you were told you weren’t good enough or that you were “big” or that you were “ugly” or that no one liked you. I’m sorry, so sorry, that you had to go through all that hate alone or that no one seemed to care about how you felt.

On behalf of all humans, I’m sorry that you weren’t treated the way you deserved.

You deserved and deserve to be treated with respect, with kindness as everyone does.

And treating people the way you’ve been treated isn’t the way to go. It’s not going to fix the hurt you feel knowing someone else is hurt too. You never know what a person is going through in life and maybe you stepping in and pushing on a nerve, is going to be that breaking point and you’re going to have that blood on your fingers and on your conscious for the rest of your life.

You don’t want that.

And no,

I’m sorry that it’s not possible to go back in time to take away that pain and hurt you felt. I’m sorry that whatever you went or are going through will stick with you in your conscious for the rest of your life.

But what you can do is change the way you act.

You can make the difference in your life and another person’s life by choosing to be the bigger and better person.

I always tell myself I want to treat people the way I want to be treated. That’s such an overly stated platitude that may sound tiresome, but I genuinely believe that if you want to see the kindness in the world, you have to be the kindest.

You have to be the one to put aside all that hurt and anger and pain and sorrow and be the person who’s there for another when they’re hurt, angry, in pain, or in sorrow. You have to be the person to be there for them with a hug, a shoulder, a tissue, an ice cream tub, or whatever because I bet you’ve wanted someone to do the same for you too when you felt all those horrible emotions.

Just because you’ve been through the gutter and back, doesn’t mean another person should experience that same feelings. As people we should lift each other up and empower each other to be the best versions of ourselves. So someone told you when you were younger that you were “big,” doesn’t mean you go around calling all the girls and boys “fat” at your school to make yourself feel skinny. So someone told you that you were “dumb” so you bully all the nerds because you want them to feel less than you. So someone told you you aren’t good “enough,” so you decide to trample another person’s confidence with hateful or vile comments.

So what?

I get it. You didn’t deserve that.

But the person you’re hurting doesn’t deserve it either.

Yes, it hurts like an open wound that you got teased and put down and if I could take that pain away from you, I would. But the main thing as a person is that you don’t succumb to the low level those people treated you, and you rise above it to treat others better so they never know that pain you felt.

There was something I read the other day:

“If someone is trying to bring you down

It just means they’re already below you.”

– Arch Hades

This struck something so deep within me when I read it because it couldn’t be more true.

People who bring others down were already down themselves and they were just taking that hurt out on you. But you don’t need to do the same to another person because that would make you just as bad as them.

So lift people up.

Compliment someone you see walking down on the street.

Help a person carry things.

Hold the door open no matter how long you have to stand there.

Encourage people to make good decisions.

Be the kindness the world needs.

Literally kill them with kindness.

Being overly kind is better than be overly mean. Because even if someone dislikes you so much because you’re so “kind” and so sweet that it seems fake, they can’t say anything bad about you that would hurt you because you’re being the best version of yourself you can be and they’ll feel sick and bad of themselves for being so rude about you. And if a person has ever treated you harshly or badly or bullied you, they probably don’t deserve you’re kindness, but you give it to them anyway.

Why?

Because they’ve probably never had a sip of it themselves.

They’ve probably never been treated with love, care, respect, and compassion, and I know, it’s hard to be kind to a person when they’ve hurt you, but trust me, doing so will feel good. It feels good because it proves to them and to yourself that you would never stoop to their level of hurt.

On this April and every day after this, I dare you to be human. I challenge you to chose kindness and what man is supposed to be.

Kind.

Encourage, motivate, and uplift others over the mountains they’re climbing or the wars raging in their lives. Everyone fights a battle we never truly know about and the least we can do is be the person who is willing to fight with them or fight for them, not against.

Down to our skin and bones we are all the same.

We are human.

We are man kind.

Let’s do everyone a favor and start acting like we are.

Hoping you’ll always spread love and kindness,